I’ve had post trip blues before. Not recently, I admit, because usually I am so excited to be back, see family and friends, I am making plans for the next chapter, trying to find work, or I am simply amazed by having full time electricity, access to a fridge and the ability to drink clean, fresh water directly from the tap. Those things all distract me from sadness that the sun has set on that particular chapter. I can process it all without sobbing like a self-pitying, weeping mess.
This time turned out to be different and, rather embarassingly, I did indeed end up a self-pitying, weeping mess in a public place. With every high comes a low and it was inevitable, I suppose, that after 5 months of extreme high, the low might strike with force.
I received a wordless welcome home in the form of a mechanically opening gate at the sterile Immigration e-passport machine. By the time I arrived in the baggage area my bike box was waiting for me, totally unscathed (relief that possibly only a bike-toting, or maybe a surfboard-toting traveller can truly appreciate). I bought a SIM card (yes, yet another new phone number, sorry friends, just save this one as 2018a, there will be another one later in the year when I get back from Africa). Logistically everything was going to plan.
And then it hit me like some sort of flying ninja kick to the soul. I melted into a row of seats next to the tourist information booth and dribbly tears appeared from nowhere. Before I’d even left the airport terminal. Grey clouds and determined rain, outside and inside. Nobody to meet me at the airport. I felt cold and exhausted. I couldn’t think straight. I can rarely think straight at the end of a 38 hour journey, but usually I don’t have to; I just throw my bag on my back and hop on the undergroud.
I had desperately itchy, bloodshot, aching eyes. I didn’t want to pay any of my precious few remaining Great British Pounds for a taxi, but it wasn’t an option to drag my 30kg bike box and overweight hand luggage on several underground trains or coaches or buses… I juggled ideas. I tried to think through finding a quiet corner of the terminal to put my bike together in the airport and then cycle home. But it was 4pm already; pouring rain, a 15 degree drop in temperature and the difficulty of cycling out of Heathrow made this an unappealing option. I had my faithful friend; my allen key multi-tool that I would need to reassemble my bike, but remembered I had left my bike pump back in New Zealand (damn you, checked luggage allowance!). I wondered if I could wheel my luggage trolley the 0.8 miles that Google Maps informed me it was to the nearest petrol station. Then I could use their air machine to blow up my tyres? Could I even push a trolley from the terminal to the petrol station? Would there be a pavement? Would the box dissolve in the way in the rain? Or would I have been better to make the bike up first? But pushing my fully loaded bike on deflated tyres would not be good for the bike. And it would take at least hour or two to get it all set up. In fact, would I even be allowed to dismantle a huge box and build a bike in the terminal? And if I was stopped part way through such a mission, how would I put it all back together and transport it onwards? If I wasn’t stopped, where would I dispose of the box and how would I manage that with a fully loaded bike? Ideas swirled around my very grey matter and confused me even further.
‘What should I do? What should I do? What should I do?’ Problem solving in New Zealand had seemed easier. Rethinking had become my secret weapon to see problems from a different angle; whereupon a favourable solution usually presented itself. The problem here was that a). I was too tired to make any sense in my head and b). I didn’t like the obvious solution that seemed to solve the problem most effectively.
After an indeterminate amount of time of sitting, wiping away tears, shivering and generally behaving like a pathetic mess, I reluctantly downloaded the Uber app, set myself up with an account and requested a car, with my head hanging low in defeat and my wallet wincing as I agreed to spend a week’s worth of cycle touring food budget on a 1 hour ride home.
I am not recalling this for sympathy. On the contrary; I feel like a self-absorbed, white, privileged, self-pitying moron who I would probably want to slap if I was a stranger reading this. But this is the mostly unmentioned side of adventure that sometimes lies behind the facade of Insta-perfect blue sky travel photos. There are lows to go with the highs and it’s how you deal with those that sort the wheat from the chaff. It’s not the low itself (they are inevitable), it’s how you respond. As an almost eternally positive powerhouse, the lows are unexpected and sometimes blindside me. It takes me a little while of introspective pondering and tough self-love to process my emotions before I can click back into happy mode. Sometimes, I am finding out, that means a few minutes of crying, sometimes it might take a few hours of quietly sitting and thinking, sometimes a few days. My point is that it is good to build in time and activities to be gentle and kind to yourself when it happens to you. I find a long think and soak in a hot bath and a good sleep work wonders.
I don’t know if anyone really even reads this. I started this blog to keep friends and family up to date while I was away, but suspect that very few of my friends or family actually read any of my posts. I picked up so much love and support whilst on the road in New Zealand, but I don’t know if that translates into anyone reading this, especially now I am back in the UK, planning my next adventure. I feel like people are more active on Instagram and that is the quick hitting platform that people prefer. Reading takes time and energy. I guess my biggest hope for this blog post would be that it is read by (and is helpful to) someone who finds the lows of travels, or adventures, or even life, sometimes a little overwhelming. And takes some comfort from knowing they are not alone, it is normal and it too shall pass.
Other than that, it is just cathartic rambling as I slip back into the scenery I left behind.
I have been lucky enough to make new wonderful adventure-hungry friends since arriving back in the UK who totally understand and share the feeling that they don’t fit into the regular 9 to 5 society and mentality. That gives me great comfort and hope. Which is a nice note to end on.
A friend asked me to write about what I took with me and how I packed it, which I will write about next. If anyone does read this and wants to know anything else or want me to write about other aspects of anything my journey so far has included, please do leave comments and I will be happy to be as open as possible and share the little snippets I have learned along the way. I am no expert, but am happy to share and point to the experts, from whom I draw knowledge and inspiration.
21 thoughts on “Post trip blues come and go”
Yes they do, thankfully! I see your straws are selling well, that is great news. GO GO GO, to infinity and beyond!
Without the lows Lib you would not know or understand how high the highs are. You need both. But the lows can be short and how you deal with them as you mentioned is the important piece. Bring on Africa. Shell xx
Bless you, you are amazing. I wasn’t feeling blue for long. And I’m certainly not now. On Thursday I’ll be flying from Cape Town to Namibia to begin the amazing coast to coast mission. SOOOO exciting…
I sat up on my bench on a sunny autumn NZ day and read your post Libby. Decision making when things ‘go to custard’ is hard. I look forward to following your next adventure too. I liked your honesty.
Dearest beautiful lady, I have been thinking of you and all your lovely crew. I have been so slack with my blog while I was at home. Ironically, now I am on the way, in Africa, I find myself with a little more time to write. Just not so much internet. So I must make the most of it while I am staying with dear friends in Cape Town. On Thursday I’m off to Namibia and then the coast to coast mission begins. If I think about it for a moment, I might burst with excitement. Except I wish the prime focus was plastics education… arohanui to you all. xx
Hello! My name is Dennis. I work in accounts. I enjoy reading your blogs, please dont stop. Love you Xxx
Dear Dennis, I hope your Accounts work is keeping you cheery. Accounts are very important, keep on trucking! 🙂
Loved reading about post trip blues. Could see and feel your pain ?The only thing I can say is ,you had the trip to have the pain. I have pre trip blues lately ! 1 year in one place and no adventures on the near horizon. However as you mentioned,not a third world problem and all about how we choose to see it. Love you zest for life xx
So sorry, I have only just found your comment. Yup, it takes much more determination and grit to stay in one place when you get back from a big trip. I hope you have some awesome plans on your horizon, even if they are little missions, nearby. I find that volunteering for a good cause always gives me that amazing high that trips give me. And window shopping for rescue dogs on the internet too. And reading great books. And treating myself to a hot bath and nail painting session… it’s all about the little things and the self-care treats…
Very good advice! Safe and inspiring travels to you xxx
It’s an inevitable low after an amazing journey. But there will be more – I’m sure, and when you look back on life you’ll see how it was a key chapter that fits into an incredible story. Try not to be sad it’s over but amazed that you pulled it off 🙂 big love from nzee xx
Dearest Anna, I’m definitely back on a high, very close to starting the Africa coast to coast mission in Namibia. I spoke in a school in Cape Town on Friday, which was great. Good to be talking to kids again and hearing their amazing ideas of how to change the world. I hope you are all well and wonderful. One day we’ll get that pedal together time… 🙂
Hi Libby, I hope you are adapting well to your return to sunny England…
If you have the time, you could consider writing up your adventures on the website crazyguyonabike. This allows touring cyclists to publish journals on a day by day basis with a pick of the best photos and information about routes etc. This would give us all access to a summary of your travels. I’ve put several of my own tours on the site and it’s a nice way to relive the whole experience and get feedback from other ‘crazy guys’.
Great idea, I will look into it. Thanks so much for the suggestion, Les.
Hi Libby. Just got round to reading your blog after being at your superbly inspiring talk at the cycle touring festival. I agree, it’s hard to come back to earth after travelling.
Thanks so much Rohini, that is very ki d of you. It definitely did feel like a bump coming back down to Earth. But all good after a few minutes of self pity! Less than 2 weeks now until Africa blast off and we have just been donated a bike for it, so just hoping to get Sunny temporarily retirrd to a loving home for a few months. Then who knows… more school talks, that’s for sure! Lovely to see you briefly, I wanted to come back in to your talk, but got mobbed by bamboo bike and plastoc questions, which was wonderful. I still need to get GPS clever!
I thought your talk at The Cycle Touring Festival was brilliant! A real Tour de Force! No umms and ahs, just masses of information very effectively and enthusiastically delivered. Any public speaker would give their eye teeth to be as good! Brilliantly Well Done!
Hi Giles, thank you so much, what a lovely comment to read. I hope you have some inspiring travel ideas and plastic pledges following the festival, I certainly do. See you there next year.
Nice Blog. I really appreciate you story telling skills. It really make me imagine the scene that you was telling in your Blog. You’ve done a hard work to share your experience with us for that Thumbs-up from me.
Aww thanks Emily. I have been sipent on the blog front, as I have been very busy doing work blogs and getting into the Bristol sustainability education consultancy game, but I’ll be blogging again soon. Watch this space…